It sounds like someone has given you some excellent advice on books to select, though I don't know enough to be of much help in evaluating the recommendations.
I know that you probably won't need the How to Ace calculus book. I've never read it , but I've seen presentations by Colin Adams, and they were entertaining (and besides it IS summer).
Speaking from personal experience, take your time and don't get impatient. At your age and beyond, I would read articles in Scientific American, and not understand them, and eventually just gave up on math and biology altogether, deciding that I could NEVER catch up. (Somehow, the fact that I was discouraged from these fields, to have engineering shoved down my craw, did not make me feel less of a failure.) My best friend was learning biology and I wasn't and that's what mattered to me.
Although calculus is important to most of physics, and essential, and very powerful, I found my early exposure to it frustrating. There are problems without exact answers, although you can get as approximate the answer as closely as you want. This was very counter-intuitive to me, it almost turned me away from math altogether. The math started to get messy. Not that it was necessarily hard, but it violated my sense of aesthetics. I don't know if this is common to people, but I wanted to warn you. This may happen, but you can get over it. In fact I now look at those same ideas, and see how powerful and beautiful they are.
Try to find a mentor. You can start with your instructors, but be forewarned, there are a lot of high school instructors who are where they are because they were thwarted at some point in their education. Don't let their disappointment discourage you. With the on line community, there are lots of forums where you can lurk and see how you would fit in.
While it is true that there are people who don't go on to graduate school, and there is competition, you need to try. If you give up, you have ZERO chance of becoming a Quantum Physicist.
Also, you are at a point where universities are starting to look for new recruits. See if any local schools have summer programs for high-schoolers. For that matter, there may be non-local programs.
I encourage you to pursue your goals. Don't cave into high-school counselors trying to live vicariously through you. If you fail at your original goal of quantum physics, the engineering schools will still be around later.
I would add this, that if you would like a change from calculus, group theory is very different, and would not require calculus. I think it is also used in quantum mechanics. I don't see any reason that you should need to put this off until you finish calculus.
However, Calculus is regarded as a sort of a "threshold" into higher math, and your abilities will be judged by it.
Most of all have fun and don't get impatient with yourself, as I did.
But DO try to gather a supportive community around you, to help you through any rough spots.